The other day, I posted in my Facebook group a post about celebrating something we felt good about for the week. I proceeded to list off a few things I felt good about:
I felt good about getting to the gym every day even if I was tired or sore.
I felt good saying no to Taco Tuesday, said with humor, for Pete's sake!
I was feeling really excited about a new group program I’m working on for the fall.
I thought about who could possibly benefit from celebrating small victories that week and shared this post in a few groups I belong to on Facebook. It didn’t get a lot of attention, except in one group, other than mine. It was an Intuitive Eating Support group. The first comment was a celebration and it was awesome! This lady posted in response to exactly what the post was supposed to be about; feeling nourished in some other form that isn’t stuffing yourself with food.
I could feel her fullness and joy.
But the next comment was ugly.
I was told that my post was full of diet mentality. WHAT?! This is news to me because if you’ve followed me for long, you know I’m super anti-diet. I responded to her and we bantered back and forth.
She called me out on skipping Taco Tuesday. She said that was not INTUITIVE, it was diet mentality and restrictive. Um, no. Just no. That was INTUITIVE for me.
You see, I have spent most of my life in the throes of DIET MENTALITY:
Eat this, not that.
This is good food, this is bad.
How many calories will that be?
Did I go over my macros?
I hate raw carrots, but by damn, that’s what the diet is telling me I have to eat.
...Yada, yada, yada...
You get it, I’m sure. But these are NONE of the reasons I CHOSE to skip Taco Tuesday (or Thirsty Thursday, for that matter!).
Here's the inside scoop:
I checked in with my body. I asked it what it felt like. I asked it if I really needed handmade tacos. I checked in with how I can feel afterwards. I looked at the fresh produce I had on hand and my body called to that. My body said it wanted the fresh produce. My body said it didn’t want to feel overfull from eating corn tortillas that don’t alway digest easily for me. If I had eaten them anyway, because hey, it’s Taco Tuesday (and yes, that did cross my mind), that would NOT have been an intuitive choice.
She told me that going to the gym when I’m tired or sore is DIET MENTALITY. I informed her I was a retired natural competitive bodybuilder and personal trainer. I was fully aware of when I should go to the gym or skip.
Maybe I needed to have explained this more clearly in my original post?? I hurt my shoulder in the gym last week. It’s sore. It hurts! Does that mean I can’t go do legs or walk? NO. I’m tired, not exhausted. What’s the remedy for the afternoon lag or even feeling like the tank is running low when you’ve been working all morning? My intuition and my body said, EXERCISE! I could have just as easily chosen caffeine or sugary treats or even taken a nap, but I'm going for BALANCE.
Exercise was MY balance.
You see, my schedule has been either busy or my chiropractor has told me about every other week to stay away from weights, so I’m having a little difficulty getting into a consistent routine. This is a bit frustrating for me.
Again, I checked in with my body each day. I asked it what it would need to feel balanced and energized. Some days I needed to feel the grounding energy of lifting weights. It helps me feel into my body and connect in a powerful way. Some days it is simply going and walking off built up, blocked energy from working with client or with my family. If my body had let me know it was just too tired to go to the gym, I would stay home. Heck, one day I lifted and came home to meditate for 40 minutes. That is what my body craved and I listened. This was worth celebrating! To me.
Then she attacked my comment regarding working on my new fall group program. She accused me of trying to promote it. Well, that was certainly NOT my intention. I have been having a great time putting this program together. Working really hard to make sure every component of this program is exciting to me and beneficial for my participants. I’ve been having a really good time with this! I’m not trying to promote it in any Facebook groups because this is not a virtual group, but a live, in person local group.
So, no, not promoting (in that group, anyway).
When people like this start attacking people in groups, it just amazes me. I didn’t think of it until later, but why didn’t they get curious and actually ask questions?
Why did they ASSUME anything at all?
WHY did they feel the need to piss all over what was supposed to be a supportive post?
I don't know. It's not even my place to figure it out. But, what IS my responsibility is to GET CURIOUS.
Whenever I feel triggered by something this is what I do and what I will do with my clients is very similar.
Dig deep, sister. Dig deep.
I got quiet. I connected. Does that sound familiar? Just like when I'm discerning what food to eat, how to move my body, what I need, etc. And when I feel connected to my highest divine self and truth, I begin by:
Asking myself WHY did these comments trigger me?
What is the positive intention in this experience for myself?
What is important for me to learn?
What am I making this mean about me? Is that true?